Many of us have wasted years in relationships whose hallmarks were conflict and drama.In our early years, when youthful ignorance and emotional baggage are still with us, we often feed off the excitement of drama and, not knowing any better, allow it to take the place of authentic connection.
It’s only in an even-keep relationship that we can risk the vulnerability that deep intimacy requires.
Few of us, however, are taught how to link passion and peace in our relationships, or how to cultivate the thrill of a brimming yet quiet heart.
As a therapist who has worked with couples for more than three decades, I have learned a lot about finding this state and achieving that balance.
In this article, I will share two powerful yet simple techniques for deepening safety and diving into new zones of intimacy.
You can do them alone, but I strongly encourage you to practice with your partner or, if you prefer, a close friend or family member.(MORE: Relationship Rescue: Bringing Back the Passion) Emotional Safety Is the Bedrock of Adventurous Intimacy "People who feel more attached aren’t just happier," says Craig Malkin, a professor of psychology at Harvard University School of Medicine, "they are more likely to seek such thrills as rock-climbing and parachute-jumping and to throw themselves into new situations and challenges, like meeting strangers and traveling overseas.”Why?