One of the most terrifying moments of a not-yet-married man’s life is meeting his girlfriend’s father. Part of the problem is trying to understand a father’s role in his daughter’s pursuit of marriage.The much-anticipated introduction is an unending fountain of humor for friends and family, but it’s more often an occasion for horror for the young man. In today’s ideal scenario, she brings home a guy the whole family can love, and the rest is matrimony. How about if she moved and met her man far away from home? The moment is a mountain to overcome in almost any relationship, but I believe it’s a mountain we, as Christians, can capture for the good of the daughter, the suitor, and the father.
These kinds of complexities can make honoring parents, setting expectations, and finding husbands feel hopeless.
As a trend, dads seem to be less and less involved in their daughter’s dating.
It actually makes for a dangerous situation because God means for spiritual headship and leadership to be a more seamless handoff, not this disjointed affair that leaves the young woman spiritually and emotionally uncovered from age fifteen until her wedding day.
We’ve relegated dads to a last-minute interview before engagement when God meant for them to be active, available agents of wisdom and safekeeping. Foolish dads relish the gun-bearing, tough-guy role.
The wise dads relish the opportunity to develop a real, intentional, grace-and-truth relationship with the man who might be tasked with caring for their daughter for the rest of her life.