An important difference for those people who are able to move on and enter into healthy, happy functioning relationships and those who seem to keep getting involved in dysfunctional relationships is that the former don’t pile or project their baggage onto every new person they meet.
Each man or woman is a clean slate, so to speak, innocent of his or her ex’s faults.
Of course, things may come up for you from past experiences when you’re with someone new that trigger old impulses; you wouldn’t be human if old hurts never surfaced or if you never had a moment where you allowed an insecurity from your past to interfere in certain ways in your present experiences.
In other words, do you have a history of emotional instability with men?
I know he cares for me but I can’t keep doing this! Is there something in this relationship that feels familiar to you?